School Daze Pt. 1

Hello again!

Well life, as it often does, got in the way for the last bit of February. And by life, I mean a delightful combo of being busy with school/work and also just not feeling me. It happens to the best of us and that’s ok. For me, it’s not that I feel just overall bad about myself but I just feel blah so I take some time to re-center and I go a little quiet on social media while I focus on getting a grip on my needs and obligations. Sometimes it seems like we try to force ourselves into this public sphere like we must keep up these appearances, but we really don’t have to. Social media should be something that’s fun and not something we feel chained to.

But now that the promise of spring break is here I’m feeling much more ready to hit the ground running!

Today was nothing special, just your typical Monday filled with homework, class, and grocery shopping; however, my new hair color inspired me to get cute for these mundane tasks because my stylist worked some straight up magic on my head.

I seriously have THE BEST stylist in the world because when I told her to just do what she wanted she created this bismuth looking masterpiece! If you live in or around San Marcos, Texas and you don’t go to The Parlour Salon to get your hair done I question your life choices because those folks are hair witches (esp. my boo Heather).

What can I say, I’m the daughter of a hair stylist so when my hair looks this good I feel fucking amazing! (As you can tell by this fat smile!)

 

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Dress: Rue21 3x, Converse: W9, Vest: Thrifted

And of course I have to give the awesome Sugar Bones a shoutout for this perfect patch:

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So yeah guys, never feel bad about taking time for you, often the clouds will roll away and you’ll feel like getting fancy again with time. Social media will be there when you get back.

 

Love you all!

-Charlie

Springtime in February

We are in the home stretch for Fatshion February!

I’m actually a little sad about it. True, I haven’t participated daily (who has time for that I mean honestly) but it has been a blast sharing looks with you guys.

This week was a doozy. I’m not sure why I’ve just been in kind of a crappy headspace. It happens to the best of us. But I really needed to use this weekend to re-center myself and do some self-care and that, my darlings, is exactly what I did.

My closest loves and I went to our favorite little wine spot in town (that is finally open on Saturday during the day praise the goddess!) and drank an exorbitant amount of cheap/strong mimosas ($6 a carafe are you kidding me) and ate pizza.

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Majestic.

Then we went to Target and departed to our homes for a nap. We swear that we’re in our late 20’s and not our mid 50’s.

It was also in the high 80’s outside because seasons mean nothing, but that at least meant I got to get hella cute in this ModCloth blouse I snagged for a steal:

 

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Blouse: ModCloth, Shorts: Rue21, Shoes: Self Esteem 9W, Hat: Target

I mean just look at all the CATS!

 

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The Cat Lady Life chose me.

Bless ModCloth and their sales. One day I swear I will make a post about being a bargain babe because I honestly never buy things at full price.

But today, Sunday, I am fully content with not putting on pants and not leaving my house.

Love you all!

-Charlie

 

 

 

AF(atshion)I

1/2 way through this Fatshion adventure.

It’s been a weird few days for me. I’ve been in a cruddy headspace and just generally blah.

BUT there was a light at the end of the tunnel, for the first time in a decade I got to see one of my absolute favorite bands, AFI. The last time I saw them I was a wee babe at 16 sweating my ass off at Warped Tour and I have to say that they were just as amazing last night as they were 10 years ago. Not to mention my look was worlds better than it was back then:

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Jacket: Ross, Crop: Witch Worldwide, Jeggings: Rue21, Boots: Doc. Martens

And I love the opportunity to rock pieces from some fabulous women-owned businesses like this killer Witch Worldwide crop and this perfect bat necklace from my favorite local spot in San Marcos, Texas Bower Bird (seriously if you’re ever in the area do yourself a favor and check them out).

Of course, there were a few drunk white guys getting way too damn pushy, my body hates me, and my ears are still ringing but it was so worth it.

Love you guys!

-Charlie

 

Fatter in Person

Fatshion February now with 90% more fat.

Social media is a tricky place. I talked a bit about this in my first post here but we often have a tendency to curate our images in these spaces to be ones that are exceptionally flattering. That isn’t always a bad thing, we should be able to choose the sides of ourselves that make us feel the most empowered and happy. But personally, I think it’s important to dissect why we find certain things to be flattering, is it because we are still adhering to what society says is acceptable or are we doing what makes us happy. If it’s the latter awesome! That’s what your space should be about, making you happy; but if your definition of flattering is based on what society says is ok it may be time to push those boundaries.

For me, those boundaries are linked to representation. Even now that we see far more plus size bodies represented than we used to very few of them look like me or any of the other fat folks I know. There’s an ‘acceptable’ way to be fat now and trust I am not it. I have small boobs, a fat face, my tummy is large, I have back fat, and I’m short. By most rules of ‘flattering,’ I should basically wear a muumuu, hide forever, or only show certain sides but I say fuck flattering. I’m fat from every side and I want to celebrate my body. I want people who are outside the ‘acceptable’ boundaries to feel empowered and represented.

So here’s me, fat from the front:

 

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Hat: Target, Top: ModCloth, Jeans: Rue21, Booties: Torrid

 

All that VBO.

Here’s me, fat from the side:

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Tummy love!

And here’s my back fat representing:

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Rolls on rolls on rolls y’all!

The point I’m getting at is that you should make yourself happy no matter what. If you want to wear a back fat bearing crop top DO IT, if you prefer to dress more modestly DO IT, just make sure that whatever you do you’re doing it for you and not because you feel like you have to follow some rule book.

Love you guys,

-Charlie